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Communicating Effectively in a Judgmental World 0

Our efforts to communicate with one another are constantly thwarted these days.  Technology, while being a very good thing, has also caused us to expect instantaneous information.  And at the same time, we suffer from short attention spans.

We tend to forget that email, texting, and social networks are only the messengers – we are still communicating with humans.  Humans have feelings, as well as egos, so it pays to ensure we send the right message.

  • Slow down!  Take a few extra seconds to proofread and edit your message before sending it.
  • Go easy on the acronyms.  LOL!  Everyone may not be familiar with the same ones you are, and limit them only to text messages and social network posts.  In email, or any work-related communications, skip them all together.  They will not help your professional image.
  • Use short, concise sentences.  The average person better absorbs information that is written at an 8th grade level.  Information is rarely read – it is usually skimmed (remember, we’re all in a big hurry!).  Keep it simple so your message is clear.
  • Own your message.  If someone misunderstands you, apologize and restate what you wrote so that it is clear.  Taking responsibility shows your sincerity, no matter what you are communicating.

What experiences have you had with miscommunications?  Do you have a story about a message gone wrong?  Tell us about it here.

Posted on: 04-10-2013
Posted in: Blog, In the News

April Fool’s – Funny or Not? 0

Fun and foolishness occur more than once a year, but there is one day that gives us permission to enjoy them to excess.  April Fool’s Day!

However, there are times when the pranks go a little too far.  Read the following scenarios and decide if they are appropriate:

  1. You get along really well with your boss, VP of National Sales, and you know he has a terrific sense of humor.  So you and a couple of coworkers redecorate his office with silly string and a few other choice items.  What you don’t know, is that your boss has an important meeting scheduled with a new client – in his office.
  2. You are the owner of a small business.  Profits have been down for the past year, but you know your staff have been working hard.  So you call a meeting at 11:45 a.m. with everyone in the office.  You will be discussing some decisions you have made on a “new direction for the company.”  When your folks arrive in the conference room, they are greeted with a nice buffet lunch and a hearty “April Fool’s!  Our new direction is to have more fun around here!”
  3. You send a fake Save the Date announcement to a few friends and family members.  Just to push them over the top, your “future spouse” is someone they either don’t know or don’t like. 

Which prank would most enjoyable?  Our guess would be #2.

Antics that may physically, professionally, or emotionally hurt you or someone else should be avoided.  Especially if you are acting on impulse.

Have you been involved in any regretful shenanigans?  Share your story here.

Posted on: 03-29-2013
Posted in: Blog, Holidays, In the News

A Dream of a Dinner Party 0

Do you ever dream of having a dinner party that gets many compliments and has people clamoring to stay on your guest list?

This is how you can make it come true.

  • Diversify your guest list. Of course everyone wants to be on it, but you know how to keep things interesting. You choose people who have just enough in common to keep conversations going, but diverse enough to expose everyone to a unique profession, a different culture, or a new tradition to share.

 

  • Shake up the seating arrangements. If possible, place couples so that they are not sitting across from or next to each other. Seat people according to personality and interests. If one of your guests is incredibly shy or has a special need, seat him next to you so you may ensure he receives the attention he requires to feel comfortable.

 

  • Make it a game. Between courses, or if there is a lull in conversation and guests get that glazed-over look, tell them to turn the table. This means that if most of them have been talking to the person on their right, everyone turns and talks to the person on their left. There are also games like Table Topics that have guests draw a card and talk about what is on it. Boredom be gone!

 

  • Set it pretty. Entertaining is the perfect excuse to pull out all the stops when it comes to your table setting. Use the china, crystal, and silver. Or use the best you have. Place flowers, candles, and seasonal items down the center of the table to create ambience that begets many compliments. It is well worth the extra minutes and effort

Could you incorporate these suggestions at your next dinner gathering?  Let us know what you think.

Posted on: 03-22-2013
Posted in: Blog, Dining, Holidays, In the News

A Saint, a Shamrock, and a Pot ‘o Gold 0

St. Patrick’s Day is a national holiday in the Republic of Ireland, a bank holiday in Northern Ireland, and a fun day in other parts of the world.

Though the religious aspects of the day are observed by many people, the secular aspects are what the holiday is most known for.  Wearing green, decorating with shamrocks, eating corned beef and cabbage, and drinking Irish lager and whiskey are how most of us celebrate.

Any event that encourages imbibing needs a word of caution.  The majority of St. Patrick’s celebrations are public – parades, festivals, etc.  Make sure you keep yourself in check (or else make sure to avoid cameras).

Know your limits.  If your pot ‘o gold happens to contain alcohol, it pays to know how much you can enjoy before you get too tipsy.  If you are out celebrating for several hours, have a glass of water in between drinks and pace yourself carefully.

Make mischief, not enemies.  All ‘Kiss Me I’m Irish” t-shirts should not be taken literally.  Know who you are joking around with and, again, what your limits are.

Although St. Patrick himself is said to have started the drinking tradition by scolding an innkeeper on his lack of “generosity” with a shot of whiskey, there is no religious reason to overdo it.

However, it is still a day worth celebrating.  On that note, we offer you this Irish Toast:

May your blessings outnumber the shamrocks that grow,

And may trouble avoid you wherever you go.

Posted on: 03-14-2013
Posted in: Blog, Holidays, In the News

Keep the Madness Out of March 0

March winds bring . . . March Madness!  Yes, once again crowds gather in living rooms and sports bars to see their favorite teams battle it out for a title. 

As we know, crowds and alcoholic beverages are a breeding ground for rude behavior.  Perhaps some tips can help your gathering keep a perfect score!

  • Try to keep drinking to a minimum.  We are completely aware that this goes against the mindset of most sports fans, but you have to agree that it is usually the cause of most bar brawls. 
  • Cheer for your team while being courteous to the other team.  No team is perfect, so there is no reason to be overly critical – or just plain mean – when talking about the one that just shot a 3-pointer and is now leading.
  • Be extra-nice to your waiters and waitresses.  Over-crowded working conditions put a lot of stress on them.  If there was ever a time to be a big tipper, this is it!  Bonus:  You are more likely to be remembered next time and will be well taken care of.
  • Thank your host!  If someone else took care of your bar tab or had you over to their home to watch the game, send them a thank-you note.

Keep madness at bay this March, but have fun and enjoy the games.  May the best team win!

Do you have any other tips that may help fellow sports fans?  Tell us about them here.

Posted on: 03-6-2013
Posted in: Blog, In the News, sports

Writing Thank-you Notes & Addressing Envelopes 0

Writing Thank-you Notes and Addressing Envelopes is an area that we always seem to get a lot of questions about.  Here are a few pointers to help you brush up on your skills!

Thank-you Notes

  • Keep your note short and simple.
  • Emphasize the gratitude and interest in the job, gift, favor, or invitation.
  • You should plan to send a note within 24 hours.
  • Write clearly and carefully in your very best penmanship. If your penmanship is truly terrible, you may type your note on the computer.
  • Write the date at the bottom of the note in the left-hand corner.
  • Proofread your note thoroughly before sending.

Envelopes 

  • When addressing an envelope to a boy thirteen or younger, use “Master.” After he is thirteen, the envelope is addressed using “Mr.”
  • When writing a girl who is not married and under the age of 18, address the envelope using “Miss.”  
  • Use “Ms.” if she is not is married and older than 18.
  • When writing a lady in business use “Ms.”
  • When writing a lady who is married use “Mrs.”
  • When addressing an envelope to a married couple use “Mr. and Mrs.”
  • The return address is always positioned on the back flap of the envelope. Just the street address and the city/state are necessary.

 

Posted on: 02-12-2013
Posted in: Blog, In the News

3 Ways to Enjoy a Solo Holiday 0

 

If you find yourself alone this holiday season, there are ways to combat the feelings of loneliness that may creep into your day. Here are three weapons you can keep at your disposal:

  1. It has been said over and over, but volunteering is the best way to overcome loneliness.  When you volunteer, a task is assigned to you and working to complete that task makes you feel productive.  Plus, you may not be working alone, which presents the perfect opportunity for making a new friend or two.  As a volunteer, you are also “giving” in some way to a person, place, or animals.  A number of research studies show that giving back improves our mental and physical well-being.  A definite win-win!
  2. Take a vacation.  A change of scenery – even if you are alone – can improve your outlook on things.  If you are spending time by yourself, you may as well be in a fun, adventurous place.
  3. Treat yourself.  Cook an elaborate holiday meal for yourself or order in.  Spend time on a project you never seem to get to.  Go outside and enjoy some sunshine.  Relax on the couch and watch the movies you have been meaning to see.  It may be a holiday, but it is yours to use any way you want.  Live it up!

Facing a holiday on your own does not have to be lonely.  Choose what you want to do with this time and do it – just for you.

Have you experienced a holiday alone?  Tell us your story.

Posted on: 11-20-2012
Posted in: Blog, Holidays, In the News

Holiday Table Manners 0

How Advanced Are Your Thanksgiving Table Manners?

Here in the United States, we are entering the holiday season with Thanksgiving on November 22.  For many people and families, it is a time of large gatherings with a bevy
of foods.

Thanksgiving Table

Whether you are celebrating this special holiday of giving thanks in a big or small way, it is always helpful to know the correct behavior necessary for a pleasant meal.

We thought it might be fun to do a True-False Quiz so you can test yourself on your knowledge.  Don’t worry, we won’t leave you in the dark, keep scrolling down to find the answers.

Let’s get started:

1.  At the beginning of a sit-down, family-style meal, food is passed only to the right.

2.  If someone asks for the salt, just pass them the salt.

3.  As soon as you are seated at the table, you may begin eating.

4.  Chewing with your mouth open or while talking is not only unsafe, it is unsightly.

5.  When you leave the table, place your napkin in your chair.

6.  It is not polite to discuss food allergies or digestion problems during a meal.

7.  By placing your silverware in the 3:15 or 6:30 position on your plate, it means that you are finished eating.

How did you do?

 Let’s find out.  Your answers and explanations are listed below:

1.  True – food is always passed to the right as it moves around the table the first time.  After it has gone around at least once, food may be passed to the left or right as needed.

2.  False – here is a little rhyme for you:  Salt and pepper are always passed together.  Even if only one is requested, they always move around the table as a couple.

3.  False – at a buffet meal, wait until at least half of your table is seated.  At a sit-down meal, follow signals from your host.

4.  True – you are more likely to choke on your food, and no one wants to see what is in your mouth.

5.  False – your napkin is always placed on the table, to the left of your place setting.

6.  True – please take our word for it.

7.  True – placing your silverware in either of these positions is called “closing out”, meaning you are finished eating.

 

Are you ready for your Thanksgiving dinner now?  Let us know how you scored.

Posted on: 11-9-2012
Posted in: Blog, Dining, In the News

The Politics of Party Conversation 0

It is an election year here in the United States, and a breeding ground for heated conversations. When party talk turns political, a bit of diffusing may be necessary to prevent a social bomb from going off.

 Party Conversation

  • Change the subject.

Before the conversation gets too deep to come back up quickly, you have a chance to turn it around. Use the opportunity to keep the peace.

 

  • Remember why you are there.

If you are not attending a candidate fundraiser, a government-sponsored event, or a political action committee gathering, there is no reason for a discussion on politics.

 

  • Ask the host to intervene.

A good host will be monitoring conversations as she makes rounds, but just in case she is out of earshot, it might be a good idea to get her attention and seek help.

 

Each of us have our own ideas and convictions, and we have a responsibility to respect the ideas and convictions of others. Keep celebratory events upbeat by discussing subjects of mutual interest that add to the party, not bring it down with negative conversation.

If a topic surfaces on which you do not agree, or cannot agree to disagree, then it is best left off the table.

Posted on: 11-6-2012
Posted in: Blog, In the News

Top 5 Etiquette Tips for Halloween 0

Make sure you have a safe and appropriate costume (you know what we mean).

If you are expecting trick or treaters, turn some lights on!

Not everyone likes to be scared, especially small children.

Jack-o-lanterns are made to be seen not smashed.

And lastly remember Halloween is meant to be fun, but saying Thank-You should be #1!

Posted on: 10-31-2012
Posted in: Blog, Children, In the News, Parents
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